The first step in the healing process is to “acknowledge and admit”. Acknowledge YOUR part in the situations and admit to them; simple yet, the hardest thing you will do in your life.
For young adults, my advice to you is that mistakes will come but if you can, prevent them as much as possible and have control of your life. I made the mistake of using men as my scapegoat when I was younger so I wouldn’t have to deal with my childhood trauma…